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I Believe In Loving Like You Give A Shit
I believe in loving like you give a shit.
I believe in being overly affectionate in public. Even if it means that those who are envious label you as 'that couple' or tell you to get a room.
I believe in flirting with someone you’ve been with for years.
I believe in seeking out our barriers to intimacy...
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How To Ask Someone To Be Your Cuddle Buddy
A first-of-it's-kind question landed in my inbox a few days ago...
Here it is in its entirety (shared anonymously with permission from the sender):
"I got out of a relationship a few months ago (okay, six months ago) and I've been doing pretty well. My life is going well, I like what I do, and...
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Jordan’s Top 10 Sex & Relationship Articles Of 2015
Happy almost 2016!
Today, I want to do something a little bit different.
This is a round up of all of the best articles I've written over the past year.
I did something like this two years ago, and I thought it was time to bring it back.
So without further ado...
Here are my top ten most...
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What Amazing Sex Feels Like For Women (In Their Words)
Want to know what sex feels like for women?
Well, you're in luck!
I recently decided to ask my four most eloquent, self-aware, heterosexual female friends what amazing sex feels like for women. And they really did not hold back in their responses.
I knew that high quality sexual intimacy wasn't...
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The 5 Best Things To Do When You’re Hurting
We all hurt sometimes.
Maybe you went through a painful breakup recently. Or you lost someone close to you. Or you're just in a funk lately and feel like busting out of it (even if only for a couple of hours).
These are my five go-to activities whenever I want to feel better. They're simple, and...
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Jordan’s Love List (Books, Music, Food, Sex Toys, & More)
I frequently get asked for recommendations about some fairly random things. And there's never been any neat, simple place to publicize those responses to people.
So this year I’m starting a new tradition. Once per year, I’m going to release my new list of favourites. Favourite what, you ask? Favourite...
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7 Powerful Trust Exercises For Couples
We all know that trust is a fundamental component of every healthy intimate relationship. But what is trust exactly?
In the context of relationships, I define trust as having an underlying belief in the reliability and consistency of someone.
So, for example, if you and your...
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31 Ways To Spread More Love Into The World
"Ultimately, spirituality and self-development have the same end goal... be unapologetically loving toward yourself and others, as often as you can manage it."
- Jordan Gray
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Nobody is perfectly loving all of the time. But that doesn't mean that we shouldn't aim to be.
We never know whether...
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The Warm Hands That Thawed My Heart In Paris
In May 2013, after backpacking through Southeast Asia for three months with a friend, I travelled alone to Paris, France.
It was my first time in Europe and I was terrified.
I spent my first few days in town searching for appropriate clothes because, as it turns out, it is the ultimate faux pas if...
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How To Harness And Heal The Pain Of A Breakup
The pain of a breakup can be excruciatingly intense.
I know because I've been there.
I started working in sex and relationships full time because the pain of a breakup levelled me so hard that it shook up my entire life.
We had been dating for just over a year. I thought I was going to marry...
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