Character Development

You Aren’t Special (And Neither Am I)
You are not special. You were not put on this planet to engage in some extra special mission that will save all of us, forever.
You are not inherently better than or worse than others. You are extremely normal. You are incredibly average. And, in a very comforting and real way, we pretty much...
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30 Pieces of Advice From 30 Couples Married 30+ Years
Ever wanted to hear from a trusted board of advisors on the topic of sustaining long-term love?
Well, you’re in luck.
I searched high and low to find thirty couples who had been happily married for over thirty years, and asked them what one piece of advice they would give to anyone who...
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Being A Healthy, Balanced Adult Is Sexy As Fuck
Self-destruction gets a lot of air time in mainstream media.
"Look at this nihilistic badass! He’s constantly shit faced, and smoking a cigarette while he looks off camera left at nothing in particular… because, don't you know, nothing’s worth anything anyways."
Nihilism gives...
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15 Specific Practices To Boost Self-Trust
A coaching client of mine recently sent me a question via email on self-trust that I had a lot of energy for. Here is her question, followed by my response to her.
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"Hi, Jordan. Since you seem to be looking for topics to write about every now and then, I'd have one for you I'd...
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To The Perpetual Fence Sitters
Here are three true short stories. About Tammy, Anna, and Joe.
(All names and any identifying details have been changed to protect identity.)
Tammy
Last week, a woman (who I will call Tammy) sent me a 1,000+ word email telling me about how she wanted...
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Stretch Your Opposites
It’s easy to become complacent in life.
It’s easy to just go back to sleep and chronically neglect your growth edges.
Laziness is our default. Psychological sleepiness plagues our world. Entropy is real.
And if we aren’t consciously shaking up our routines every now and...
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Let Go Of Being At War With Yourself
If you ever have a difficult time receiving compliments…
If you have a difficult time understanding why people like you, or are drawn to you…
If you have a hundred excuses on the tip of your tongue as to why you can’t do the work you love, find your dream partner, or live a life that...
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7 Things I Want You To Remember If I Die Young
I’ve lost two close friends over the past few years. One was 25 years old, the other was 30.
And, without hyperbole or rose-coloured glasses on my face, I can easily say that they were both some of the best people I have ever known. The kind of people that make me think ‘Only the good die young’...
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Life Is Short/Life Is Long
Life is short. And life is long.
Both statements are true.
I’ll prove it.
Life Is Short
You get about 27,000 days, give or take a few thousand, on average.
That’s about 4,000 weeks.
Just over 70 years.
Sure, maybe we’ll make some kick...
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Does Therapy Even Work?
Does therapy actually work or is it just a bunch of hoity-toity bullshit for rich people who want to complain to a stranger about their problems?
Myths and stereotypes abound about talk-based therapy.
People think that therapists ‘shrink’ heads. Or that therapy clients are simply ‘na...
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