Character Development

11 Easy Ways To Actually Love Yourself More
You hear the advice of "love yourself first" from so many sources throughout your life.
But what does that actually mean?
While I think that it's wrong/damaging/ridiculous to tell people that they can't be loved by others until they love themselves (*ahem*... of course you can... you not loving...
Continue Reading

How To Overhaul Your Entire Life In 5 Easy Steps
I was lying on the sidewalk. Cold, January concrete supporting my head. Tears streaming down the sides of my face towards my ears.
Over a dozen pairs of feet raced by me before someone acknowledged my strange placement.
“Are you alright brother?”, an eventual stranger asked.
“I think I might be having...
Continue Reading

I Believe In Loving Like You Give A Shit
I believe in loving like you give a shit.
I believe in being overly affectionate in public. Even if it means that those who are envious label you as 'that couple' or tell you to get a room.
I believe in flirting with someone you’ve been with for years.
I believe in seeking out our barriers to intimacy...
Continue Reading

How To Ask Someone To Be Your Cuddle Buddy
A first-of-it's-kind question landed in my inbox a few days ago...
Here it is in its entirety (shared anonymously with permission from the sender):
"I got out of a relationship a few months ago (okay, six months ago) and I've been doing pretty well. My life is going well, I like what I do, and...
Continue Reading

Jordan’s Top 10 Sex & Relationship Articles Of 2015
Happy almost 2016!
Today, I want to do something a little bit different.
This is a round up of all of the best articles I've written over the past year.
I did something like this two years ago, and I thought it was time to bring it back.
So without further ado...
Here are my top ten most...
Continue Reading

The 5 Best Things To Do When You’re Hurting
We all hurt sometimes.
Maybe you went through a painful breakup recently. Or you lost someone close to you. Or you're just in a funk lately and feel like busting out of it (even if only for a couple of hours).
These are my five go-to activities whenever I want to feel better. They're simple, and...
Continue Reading

Jordan’s Love List (Books, Music, Food, Sex Toys, & More)
I frequently get asked for recommendations about some fairly random things. And there's never been any neat, simple place to publicize those responses to people.
So this year I’m starting a new tradition. Once per year, I’m going to release my new list of favourites. Favourite what, you ask? Favourite...
Continue Reading

7 Powerful Trust Exercises For Couples
We all know that trust is a fundamental component of every healthy intimate relationship. But what is trust exactly?
In the context of relationships, I define trust as having an underlying belief in the reliability and consistency of someone.
So, for example, if you and your...
Continue Reading

31 Ways To Spread More Love Into The World
"Ultimately, spirituality and self-development have the same end goal... be unapologetically loving toward yourself and others, as often as you can manage it."
- Jordan Gray
-
Nobody is perfectly loving all of the time. But that doesn't mean that we shouldn't aim to be.
We never know whether...
Continue Reading

The Warm Hands That Thawed My Heart In Paris
In May 2013, after backpacking through Southeast Asia for three months with a friend, I travelled alone to Paris, France.
It was my first time in Europe and I was terrified.
I spent my first few days in town searching for appropriate clothes because, as it turns out, it is the ultimate faux pas if...
Continue Reading