Character Development

Everybody needs love and connection. It has been repeatedly proven to be the biggest defining factor in long-term happiness. In an 80-year-long study, scientists at Harvard University tracked 268 students as they carried on their journeys—hoping to collect hard data on what really makes a great, satisfying...

How is your relationship to relationships? For most people, it’s highly selfish and egoic. It’s all about what they can get, versus what they can give. They operate more like entitled, co-dependent children than responsible adults. Here’s some general advice for life: Don't be like most...

Growing up, I experienced a lot of wounding with the feminine. Bullying, break ups, being emotionally decimated at my most vulnerable... At the age of 20, I felt like I'd had enough. I didn't want to be vulnerable with women anymore. I wanted to armour up. Shut them out. Punish them for how...

I used to think that men who got married were idiots. Or, if they weren't idiots, they were at least undesirable enough that they just had to settle for whoever chose them... because why else would you tie yourself to someone for life if the reason weren't that you didn't have any other romantic options? I...

Does polyamory ever work? I received the following letter from a reader the other day. "I’ve been struggling for the better part of several months dealing with leaving my ex for the second time (who came back early last year love bombing me for months, then completely shifting saying he wants to...

For nearly any man, having their balls chopped off is one of the most terrifying scenarios imaginable. If you have a scrotum, just reading that probably made it flinch. But if it’s such a scary idea, then why do so many of us do it to ourselves every single day? To understand energetic castration,...

Ever been sexually rejected by your partner? If you've ever been in a relationship that's lasted longer than six months, the answer would be yes. I recently got this email from a reader, and I decided to answer it in a long-form article, as I know that others would benefit from it. Here's the letter,...

Intimate relationships are breeding grounds for entitlement to surface. And it's understandable that this theme would bubble up in certain partnerships. If we're being honest with ourselves, we all have an entitled child inside of us who wants life to be easier than it sometimes feels. Who would...

Every single person on the planet would benefit from seeing a therapist at multiple points throughout their lives. Whether it's for navigating a significant transition (like leaving high school, entering the work force, first experience with death, getting married, becoming a parent, first major breakup...

My partner Demetra and I have lived together for a little over a year. We are committed to each other. We talk about getting married in the not-so-distant future. And each time our relationship has gone a layer deeper, we have both had a corresponding layer of fear accompany it. "What if she...