Sex

If you’ve been reading my articles for any length of time you’ll likely know that I’m a huge fan of self-reflecting… especially when it comes to our sex lives. One exercise that I have a lot of my clients go through is setting aside an hour and writing down what their ideal sex life looks like. It’s...

"How do I get my partner to initiate sex with me more often?" This is one of a handful of questions that I get asked on a weekly basis that makes me internally cringe. Why? Because, while I empathize with how bad it can feel to not have a sense of sexual connection with your partner, to me the question...

We are more wild, and more tender than we allow ourselves be in bed. Regardless of our gender, the range of our sexuality has been repressed, limited, and shamed into a corner since we were young. We are simultaneously tantalized and chastised. We are taught to suppress sexual desire… hide our bodies…...

The majority of my private coaching clients are abnormally high functioning people. They’re self-employed and loving their work, they’re in good shape, and they have relatively conquerable issues in their love life. Over the past few years I’ve noticed a specific trend in the character traits of my...

Sexual desire for your partner ebbs and flows depending on your mood, the season, and how much effort you’ve been putting into your relationship lately. It’d be all too easy to blame waning sexual desire on the fact that you’ve been together for X number of months/years/decades… but really, sexual desire...

Valentine’s Day is coming up soon… do you know what you’re going to do for it? Whether you celebrate the holiday with a significant other or not, these five powerful ideas will be good ones to keep in your back pocket for future use. If you are celebrating the holiday, please, please, please avoid...

It’s time that we started a revolution in how we think about sex. Frustrated men, women, and lovers world wide are standing up and saying ENOUGH already with this two-dimensional sex. Here’s the problem… Most men think of sex as a linear act. I could be all politically correct and say most people,...

There’s nothing more normal than performance anxiety. I’ve been working with men who have had frequent or occasional bouts of sexual dysfunction (erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, etc.) and performance anxiety for the past six years. Let me start off by saying that there is nothing more normal,...

Mind-blowing sex is 10% technical skill, and 90% connection, presence, and emotionality. It’s more about reading your partner, moment to moment, than it is about perfecting a specific hand technique (although hand techniques certainly don’t hurt). My clients frequently ask me how to optimize their sex...

Every week, people ask me what books I would recommend for them to further their understanding of sex and relationships. Having been someone that has been self-educating on sex, psychology, and relationships for the past decade, and having read hundreds of books on the subject, I feel fairly qualified...