Mar 19, 2020

How To Have Amazing Sex While Quarantining

Are you currently quarantining yourself indoors because of this whole Coronavirus/COVID-19 pandemic? And are you still a sexual being? Yes, of course you are!

Regardless of the extent of self-quarantining and/or social distancing that you are currently engaging in, you are still a soft-bodied human mammal who needs physical contact and social relating to thrive.

Whether you live with your sexual partner, live separately from your sexual partner, or are single/live by yourself, I’ve got you covered. And I have a different plan of action for each of these three scenarios.

1. How to have amazing sex while quarantining when you live with your partner

Sexual desire is born in the space between two people. If you and your partner are currently cooped up in your home with little to no breathing room for that sense of desire to grow, then you need to put effort into creating it.

Do you have separate bathrooms? Designate one bathroom per person for the duration of your quarantine.

Do one or both of you work from home? Work in separate rooms.

You get the point. Work, exercise, go to the bathroom, and live your lives with as much separateness as possible, so that when you reconvene in the bedroom, it won’t feel like you’ve already been attached at the hip 24/7.

Whether you live in a fifteen-room family home, or a two-bedroom apartment, find ways to spend time away from each other through the day, and your sex life will benefit.

And if you’re looking for some new, fun, exploratory sexual practices to engage in, I would recommend checking out this article on spoiling sessions, this article on figuring out what your ideal sex life looks like, this article on embracing boring sex, and this article on talking directly about sex with your partner.

Final note: having amazing sex while quarantining is not only possible, but in some ways easier to engage in. How often do you and your partner get this much time to physically engage with each other? With so many of the distractions from your normal daily routines stripped away, you get to come back to what matters. Engaging intimately with each other and cultivating your love for one another.

2. How to have amazing sex while quarantining when you live separately from your partner

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If you are currently in a relationship with someone but you live apart from each other, then you’ve got other considerations to make.

Depending on the severity of your social distancing and quarantining, you might still be seeing each other, and you might not.

If you are committed to not seeing each other in person during this time, then sexting and online Skype/Zoom/FaceTime sex are your best friends. Keep the sexual simmer alive by engaging in your sex life with each other actively through digital means, and keep things creative with the way that you communicate. This could look like sending nudes to each other, engaging in mutual self-pleasuring while doing video chat, or just sending flirty texts back and forth throughout the day.

If you are still seeing each other during this time, then make sure that you’re both aware of the social connections that you’re each engaging in. For example, if you live a few blocks away from each other and you both live alone and neither of you is socializing, in person, with others, then that’s a pretty safe relationship to engage in. But if one of you is immune compromised and the other partner is carrying on as if nothing is happening in the world and regularly partying with dozens of friends at a time, then it might be a safer bet to keep your relationship online for the time being.

When you are meeting up in-person, make sure that you are washing your hands thoroughly whenever you get to each other’s houses, and checking in with each other to see if you have been feeling even the mildest of symptoms. Yes, you can still be a carrier when you are showing no symptoms, but that’s why it’s important to know how your partner is engaging socially, so you can both be aware of the risk factors included in sexually engaging with each other when you do meet in person.

Safe sex doesn’t just mean using barriers or talking about your STI history anymore. If we’re keeping this whole pandemic thing down and putting effort into flattening the curve, we all have to do our part.

3. How to have amazing sex while quarantining when you are currently single

If you are currently single and do not have any sexual partners to engage with, guess what!? Good news! This is one of the most potent opportunities you will likely ever get to get really good at self-pleasuring and connecting to yourself sensually.

With all of this free-time and spaciousness in your life, you get to deeply invest into your body and your sensual practices.

You can order massage oil, lube, and sex toys straight to your door (because we live in magical times) and get down with your sensual self.

There is no better time to be engaging in pleasure in your life than right now.

Regularly set aside time (at least 1-2 times per week) to have a dedicated self-pleasure date.

Set the mood right. Make the lighting in your room pleasurable. Make your bed comfortable. Get all of your self-pleasure devices ready. Set out coconut oil/almond oil/massage oil/lube within arms reach. Get your toys at the ready (and make sure that they’re charged up if any of them are electronic/vibrators). And really make a meal of it all.

There is no better time to slow down and really ground into your body by investing in your sensual life. So use it.

Embrace This Time, And Choose Pleasure

We live in unprecedented times. No one knows if this COVID-19 pandemic will blow over in two months or two years. Who knows? Honestly, it doesn’t matter. While we can have influence over it by the actions we take (primarily: how good we are at staying home and practicing social distancing), we don’t control the outcome.

What we can control is whether or not we are letting our minds drown in fear, worrying about the economy and the state of the world and how we’re all paying a price for the way that we have treated the planet… or whether we choose to become more self-reflective… learn and grow in this time of slow-down… and engaging in (and choosing) pleasure more often than we normally do.

My vote? Choose pleasure. Choose self-responsibility. Choose to have amazing sex while quarantining (with yourself, and/or with your partner). Choose becoming more deeply connected to your body (and your partner, if you have one) than you ever have been.

I believe in you. I believe in all of us. Good things are coming, when we decide that that is the case.

Dedicated to your success,

Jordan

Ps. If you enjoyed this article, you will also love checking out the following:

How To Get Your Social Needs Met While Social Distancing

How To Fall In Love With Masturbation

Slow Sex: How To Magnify Your Sexual Pleasure

The Ultimate Sexting Guide: 100+ Sexy Texts To Turn Them On Like Crazy

How To Make Your Long Distance Relationship Work

Mating In Captivity (book) by Esther Perel

Jordan Gray
About Jordan Gray

Jordan Gray has been a sex and relationship coach for over 15+ years, with his work reaching over 200 million people worldwide. His writing has been featured in Vogue, GQ, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health, and countless other publications around the world. When he’s not working with 1-on-1 coaching clients or writing a new article, he’s most likely to be found reading, chopping wood, or spending time with his wife on a little island off the west coast of Canada.

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